It is important to know who you are and really remember that when you are going through emotional battles.
We all heard and said, sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. Well, now that we are all a bit more adult...I think I have had more injuries from words than from sticks or bones...maybe that is just me.
Especially in relationships, people can say the harshest and meanest things that go straight to your inner core to demoralize you. Men may say things to women like, "Your ugly, stupid, a hoe, you can't make it without me." Women may say things to men like, "You’re so pathetic, you’re worthless, you can't even provide for me." Both statements can hit the core of the individual you are talking to and make serious damage if allowed.
It makes sense... you open yourself up to that person so they already know your vulnerable spot. But then when an argument or they are no longer on your side they attack that vulnerable spot and can serious demoralize you.
It happens all the time, it is called emotional abuse. It can happen male to female or female to male but know that either way it truly hurts. You have to deal with that emotional pain but more so to overcome it you have to focus on your positive points. Remember what is the positive about you and don’t be shallow, don't just focus on people liking you, or you are fine, you have to go deeper than that. If you don't then you will become an "overcompensater" and we all know someone that is easily overcompensating on something that doesn't really matter (clothes, sexy, body, cars) just to make up for some emotional pain inside.
So, I am a bit tired and losing my train of thought but my main points are these:
1. If you are saying things to people, be very caution because those words your throw around hurt more than stick and bones. Also that pain lasts far longer than any stick/stone.
2. If you are receiving the words, deal with it. Don't block it out but don’t focus on it like it is you, you are a beautiful creation of God, know your inner beauty, your skills, and abilities (double and, very bad English) and focus on those.
Just my mumbled, jumbled up thoughts...
We all heard and said, sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. Well, now that we are all a bit more adult...I think I have had more injuries from words than from sticks or bones...maybe that is just me.
Especially in relationships, people can say the harshest and meanest things that go straight to your inner core to demoralize you. Men may say things to women like, "Your ugly, stupid, a hoe, you can't make it without me." Women may say things to men like, "You’re so pathetic, you’re worthless, you can't even provide for me." Both statements can hit the core of the individual you are talking to and make serious damage if allowed.
It makes sense... you open yourself up to that person so they already know your vulnerable spot. But then when an argument or they are no longer on your side they attack that vulnerable spot and can serious demoralize you.
It happens all the time, it is called emotional abuse. It can happen male to female or female to male but know that either way it truly hurts. You have to deal with that emotional pain but more so to overcome it you have to focus on your positive points. Remember what is the positive about you and don’t be shallow, don't just focus on people liking you, or you are fine, you have to go deeper than that. If you don't then you will become an "overcompensater" and we all know someone that is easily overcompensating on something that doesn't really matter (clothes, sexy, body, cars) just to make up for some emotional pain inside.
So, I am a bit tired and losing my train of thought but my main points are these:
1. If you are saying things to people, be very caution because those words your throw around hurt more than stick and bones. Also that pain lasts far longer than any stick/stone.
2. If you are receiving the words, deal with it. Don't block it out but don’t focus on it like it is you, you are a beautiful creation of God, know your inner beauty, your skills, and abilities (double and, very bad English) and focus on those.
Just my mumbled, jumbled up thoughts...
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